Productivity is all about starting. Taking action. Moving out of the commentary box and onto the pitch. Then it’s about persistence, perseverance, the hard yards. We’ve all read the articles, we know how this goes.
But the next step? It really takes some mastering. We need to learn how, when and why to stop.
Sometimes you’ll be forced to stop by illness, failure or world events. Other times, you will have to choose to stop, and that’s trickier. But get it right and you’ll find the progress, purpose and balance that you want.
Here are three reasons why stopping is…
Change often feels very hard when we’re trying to do it to ourselves, but when it happens to us, obviously we have no choice but to accept it.
Then, a funny thing happens. We adapt extremely quickly. It’s what us humans do. It’s how we’ve survived for such a long time.
The good side is this — a new activity or context which annoyed us in the beginning quickly becomes second nature. Our shower broke right at the start of the pandemic, and due to someone in the house shielding, we didn’t have it fixed for nearly a year. I now love baths.
The bad side is this — we don’t notice the bad attitudes, habits and beliefs seeping in. Before we know it, they’re just “us”.
If you don’t create your life, your life will create you.
Did you do class debating in school? Teacher would pick a subject with two sides to the argument — perhaps “the voting age should be 16, not 18 in the UK” — and you’d divide into teams to build your arguments.
What our teacher did next was genius. They got us to swap. Instead of supporting voting at 16, our group now had to to argue against it. The lesson was clear — we’re all capable of seeing the same thing two completely different ways.
Consider your life. Are you going to talk it up? Be grateful for all you…
I’ve made it. 100 days of researching, writing, reflecting and following a way of eating (16:8 Intermittent Fasting weekdays, with the weekends more relaxed) all in an effort to improve my relationship with food and move toward a healthy weight.
Those two aims — improve my relationship with food and move toward a healthy weight have both been achieved.
Let’s explore how…
I re-read my article from Day 1. Here’s how I set out my aims:
“What I want is 100 days of progress. What this means is not giving up. Not eating or drinking my feelings when…
Hunger and trust are related. When you have a problematic relationship with food, you forget what being hungry means and how it feels. Often what you think is hunger (the need to eat) is appetite (the desire to eat).
You don’t trust your body to tell you the truth on whether it is hungry or not because, like a screaming toddler having a tantrum it’s just shouting “I. Want. Food!” at you.
This project has allowed me to rebuild trust levels between me and my body. I’m not perfect by any means, but I now have a better chance of…
Here’s something that us humans do that makes NO sense. I do it, you do it, everyone does it. We spend ages, years, decades, wishing for a change to happen, waiting for a progress moment to magically occur… and we spend little or no time on a process that could make it happen.
These clichés all make the point in different ways:
“Look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves” — good small decisions add up
“How to run a marathon? One foot in front of the other” — simplify and focus on the now
I went out for drinks with friends for the first time in over a year yesterday evening and the inevitable happened — I felt a little rough this morning. But, how I was with food during the beer-drinking and post beer-drinking actually shows the progress I have made.
Here are 3 ways that my relationship with food in the last 24 hours was way better than it would have been 99 days ago…
I’ve written many times in this project how alcohol is a triple threat when it comes to weight loss / a healthy relationship with food. …
Our brains are wired to recognise situations we have seen previously and react in the same way we did before. It’s a clever function, and it means we don’t have to re-learn how to make a cup of coffee every morning, but it can lead to problems too.
If you have a prejudice, for whatever reason, it’s really hard to displace it.
For example, if you’ve had a bad experience with a tradesperson you might be wary the next time you need one. But it’s not fair, is it? Just because you had a bad experience with the last tradesperson you engaged with, it doesn’t mean that all tradespeople are evil.
Flipping a situation in reverse is useful. Switch places with the person you’re about to judge. How would you feel if the roles were reversed?
If you’re reading this thinking “I can never lose weight, I just have to accept I will always be overweight”, then I would ask you to think again. Here are three reasons why…
I know what it feels like to be resigned to being overweight and/or having an unhelpful relationship with food. I have made significant progress in both areas in around 3 months. I’m not saying follow my process (though feel free to give it a try), I’m saying change is possible, you just need to find what works for you. Three things I’d ask you to consider:
I want to learn. I try to grow. I’d love to help.