Are You Getting Angry At The Wrong Person?
Anger comes about 5 seconds before we realise we should calm down and take a deep breath. Too quick for anger management techniques to kick in. The shout has happened, the comment made and the spiral entered.
Anger is the tip of an iceberg, most of which is underwater, so we need to dive down to see what is actually going on.
I’m willing to bet that 9 times out of 10, when you get angry with somebody, you’re actually angry with someone else:
Yes, the kids’ / boss’s / other driver’s behaviour isn’t great, but what’s gnawing away at you is how you’ve tripped up on the same issue in your own life for umpteenth time.
So take a dip in the icy water and have a look below the surface.