I wonder if there was another game within the game going on here. In that the new boyfriend realised that your husband was a mate (or a mate of a mate) of their new girlfriend so was somehow trying to people-please him. With blokes this can be a dangerous game because often you end up going more laddy (more sport, more beer, more "banter") because that's what you assume a bloke you don't know will respond to. I enjoyed this article and it really made me think. I wonder if judging people really quickly just off someone else's instinct is always a good idea though?

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