Is The Friendship Contract Forever?
When you make friends with someone, you make a pact — knowingly or unknowingly — that you will support each other, have each other’s backs, give and take.
You make this unsaid promise at a moment in time, then maintain it over the years. Meanwhile, you, them and the world all change.
It’s not the same with romantic relationships. It’s accepted that when it stops working out, you move on.
In the UK, you can look up the percentage of marriages which end in divorce in a particular year. In our year, the rate is 22%.
Given that the friendship pact is almost marriage-like with your closest friends, does this mean that we will lose 20% of our friends? Perhaps.
What it does mean is that we need to work on our friendships like we work on our marriages — honest communication, compromise and kindness.